To my daughter: Today, I saw your heart

Dear Emma, Today, I saw the depth of your little almost-3-year-old heart, and it took my breath away. And I want you to know what it felt like. Before we got in the school car line to pick up Charlie, we parked down by the playground. It was teeming with big kids — older kids […]

Would you use Facebook to find your teen a prom date? Are you *sure*?

You know those preconceived ideas of parenthood you have when you’re not yet a parent? I know them only too well, because they always seem to come back to bite me. Like, daily. Before kids: I was never going to give in to whining. With kids: OhdearGod, take whatever you want just please stop whining! […]

Help your child with special needs adjust to school (aka, advice I should have followed!)

Help your child with special needs adjust to school (aka, advice I should have followed!)

This may be one of my favorite articles, simply because it gave me such great ideas for getting Charlie ready for school. Not that I executed on all of them. In fact, the one I really wanted to do and never got around to it: Practicing eating lunch from a lunch box. Seems simple enough, […]

Hateful letter rails against child with autism

What kind of person sees a child with special needs and thinks his parents should euthanize him? Maybe more people than we want to admit… but at the least, this cowardly, anonymous person, who didn’t just think it; she wrote it down and sent it in an anonymous letter to the child’s family. The story […]

Class picture breaks mom’s heart; Charlie turns 3 and… hippos?

It’s been an emotional week at SheKnows and allParenting! Here’s a cheat sheet on the infuriating, heartwarming and FUN articles that posted this week: allParenting let me tackle a trending story about a little boy and his wheelchair, set apart in his class picture but leaning eagerly toward his classmates. It made me so mad! […]

A veteran mother’s plea: In the wake of Ethan Saylor’s death, demand training of all law enforcement

Introduction from Maureen Wallace,  rookie mom of a child with Down syndrome   At least once a day since Robert “Ethan” Saylor died in January, I have thought about how my son, Charlie, could face a similar fate. Charlie has Down syndrome, just like Ethan. Many other parents of children with Down syndrome have written […]

A message to ALL Down syndrome organizations

If you love someone with Down syndrome, or love someone who loves someone with Down syndrome… please, take a moment to read what may be the most important “Chasing Charlie” column I’ve written over on allParenting. A young man died, and because we don’t have information from an independent investigation, we cannot know the details. […]

I kept our secret pretty well for almost two years…

I kept our secret pretty well for almost two years…

And then I saw the post. A friend from our local Down syndrome association had posted on Facebook that she was looking for a caregiver for her children, one of whom has Down syndrome. I knew it was time. I knew we had to give another precious little boy the opportunity to be nurtured by […]

Happy anniversary, blog… and a life-changing decision

One year ago this week, I began this silly, little, nondescript blog. I titled it, “Operation Have It All,” because I was embarking on a yearlong job share with a dear friend as a means of trying to create more balance in my life. I thought if I could successfully split my week between my […]

JLD: What if MY Charlie was YOUR Charlie?

OK, before you groan and say to anyone in the room, “Oh God, here she goes again,” just hear me out. This quick column is riddled with irony, and who doesn’t enjoy some good irony? Today’s “Chasing Charlie” column is titled, “Learn to advocate for your child with special needs.” Hmmm… Can you tell I wrote […]